Making tough decisions

By Lisa Seppala, MBA, BComm, ACC, PHS (Adv Cert)

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the outcomes of a tough decision I had to make a few months ago. At the time, it felt daunting, but from my vantage point today, I know I chose the right course on several fronts.

At the time, I had to decide between two options. Both options were emotionally charged, involved people close to me, and had financial implications. I was conflicted and anxious about which option to choose.

After a few days of trying to see how I could choose both, I had to decide.

From my early communication with the parties representing each option, I knew I would let someone down regardless of my choice. To help me feel comfortable with my decision, I knew anchoring my decision to my vision and values was critical.

By asking myself the following questions, I came to my final decision.

Vision

• What is my vision for my life?
• What are my short- and long-term goals to achieve my vision?
• How do the options align with my vision and goals?
• How would the best version of myself handle this decision?

Values

• What are my values?
• How do the options align with my values?

Awareness

• What is at the root of my angst with this decision?

This final question was vital for understanding why I felt anxious. I feared how others would react. Once I became aware of the source of my anxiety,  I chose the best option for me and made it for the right reasons. It was still difficult, but everything fell into place when I acted authentically and aligned with my vision and values. Some were disappointed, but they understood and respected my decision. And now, looking at where I’m at today, choosing the option I did and explaining my reasons why has allowed me to progress on many fronts, including having more authentic conversations with those I was disappointing.

If you’re facing a tough decision, whether at work or in your personal life, I encourage you to look at which option best aligns with your vision and values and consider what makes the decision difficult. Perhaps you, too, can find a way to serve yourself and others in the process.